We all make choices every day. Some are small, some are big. No matter the choices we make, we must remember that they affect the people around us. Sometimes in small ways, sometimes big ways, sometimes in ways not even realized until years later. The other day I was writing down my goal list for the day, not a “to do” list, but a goal list. I sometimes just write down things that randomly pop into my head and one of those ideas was “Make good decisions.” I’m going to clarify a concept for myself and you: We have choices; we make decisions. Sometimes, we have a good choice and a bad choice to decide between. Sometimes, we have two bad choices and we have a hard time making a decision. This is what we call deciding between the lesser of two evils. I’m not a fan of that situation. I’m always the one looking for the third option or chucking it all and making my own third option. Then there are the times when we have two or more good choices…oh the agony!
Whether we make good decisions or bad, it affects someone else in some way. What we choose to eat for dinner, the clothes we wear, how we speak to others, our habits. My focus here is how our choices/decisions affect our children. Sometimes they have a positive effect, sometimes negative. As I’m writing this my thoughts are getting deeper than I intended so I’m going to try to keep this very basic while I’m thinking that what I’m saying isn’t exactly right or complete. Basically, what it comes down to is that we teach by example. Sometimes our example leads others to do like we do, and sometimes to do something differently, both can be good. For example, if we choose a healthy diet and lifestyle and our children see the benefit and develop those good habits, that is good. If we choose an unhealthy lifestyle and become overweight diabetics or alcoholics, but our children see the damage and choose to not live that way, that is also good……for them. They made the good decision in that situation. The more good decisions that we make though, the easier it is for our children to develop good habits and good decision making skills.
It’s important for us to know our own good and bad decisions so that we can help our children learn to make good decisions, even when the choices are hard. I believe in being open with my children about all the decisions in my life so that they feel comfortable asking about choices and decisions that they have to make in their lives. I will discuss how and why I made the decisions that I made and the effects those decisions have had. I always leave it up to them which way to decide, though. Sometimes we have to have discussions after the fact about decisions and consequences. I have to show them that the bad decision that they made was their choice and no one else’s. That they had a choice, and made a bad decision. Being an example is hard, but by making good decisions each day, by breaking bad habits and forming good ones, we will lead our kids on a journey to becoming the best person they can be. Below is a list of links to a few websites that have good posts about life choices.
Make good decisions today!