Most of us know the poem about the road less travelled by Robert Frost. Well, it seems to me that as we wander through life, we are all on a road not travelled. No one has ever travelled the road we are on. Our journey is unique from all others, because we are unique from all others. Others roads may intersect ours, or run parallel to ours, and possibly even be the same as ours, but only for a time. No one else has ever had the exact same experiences and choices that we have, similar, but not exact.
We so often compare our lives to others’ lives to find out where we stand. That will never give us an accurate placement though. We are not here to follow someone else’s footsteps, we are here to make our own. And those after us are not here to follow in our footsteps, they will need to make their own also. They can use ours as a guide, for better or worse, but eventually they will emerge to create their own path through life. Someone else may get to the same spot as me, but the before and after paths will be as different as can be. One may be perfectly straight, or have a few zig zags, the other may be full of loops and backtracks, but somehow, we ended up at the same spot, just at different times, and that’s ok.’
I know that my road has been long and winding with a lot of dead ends, but I keep on going, blazing a new trail through life. I have had people with me all along the way even though their personal roads have had their own twists and turns. Sometimes, a road will separate from mine and not come back, at least not yet, and sometimes our roads have wavy patterns where we are together and apart at different times. Even though we all ultimately have the same goal, we each have to watch our steps, because we will not get there exactly the same way. I have tried to follow other people’s footsteps, but I usually wobble and step off their path. Instead of thinking that I made a mistake, I try to think that maybe that isn’t the path for me. My path is my own, so please, don’t follow me and don’t ask me to follow you. You can see where there are dead ends on my path and choose not to go that way, but you also need to blaze your own trail. You may run into a few dead ends of your own, or you may have a straight path right to the oasis, but it will be your own path, your own journey.
There comes a time when we all have to separate and find our own way. Hopefully, our moral compasses are pointing us in the right direction and we all get to our final resting place at the end of our path successfully.