We do not need magic to transform our world. We carry all the power we need inside ourselves already.
This quote is particularly inspiring and empowering to me. I used to have a pretty bad case of the blames, that dreaded disease where we blame anyone else for our problems. It’s one of those chronic conditions that takes a lot of work to get rid of. Sometimes other people are the cause of a problem, but most of the time it is something that is within ourselves that we just don’t see or don’t want to admit to. Whatever the cause, the cure is within us. I used to be a very strong, I can do anything kind of person until things got tough and people tried to prevent me from doing things. Oh, there are infinite reasons someone can give as to why you shouldn’t do something and some people can make those reasons sound very, well, reasonable. Sometimes this is good, depending on the person, but sometimes it is just manipulation. When one person is constantly giving up their own plans and dreams to do what someone else wants, eventually that person is going to either break or rebel. I rebelled.
It took years to wear me down to the point where I had had enough and it is taking me years to get back to being me. I will never be just like I was and that is okay. Truthfully, I was very stubborn and opinionated and thought that I was always right. I still lean that way, but have matured to realize that every single person has a different perspective on any given situation. The maturity comes from knowing my own mind and my own dreams and going after them and still respecting the opinions of others. I had to overcome that little nugget of self-doubt in mind and dig deep to remember and find the strength within myself to keep going. I have learned that not everyone wants for me what I want for me because it will change the way they live also. I believe that change can be good. It keeps our minds limber. I found a new me and I am stronger and better than ever before, and I am a work in progress.
The first difficult part of overcoming manipulation is realizing that our own mind didn’t recognize it and overcome it. The other part is changing the way we respond to it without destroying a relationship. Sometimes, that is not possible, but, sometimes it is. Whenever someone changes a behavior, the people close to them notice, some cheer and some fight it, depending on how it affects them. The person doing the manipulating is usually the one fighting the changes. I finally remembered who I used to be. It was always there inside of me, but I was put away in a closet. It took a lot of courage to open that closet door and release that power inside of me, the power of Me. I am every bit as deserving of my dreams as anyone else. I have talents and skills and want to use them. If that changes how things get done, well so be it. In short, I had to be the one to realize that I was the only one who could make the choices and take those steps to change my own world. There was no magic spell that could fix me. I had the power inside me the whole time. I just had to discover it and learn how to use it. It is the power of choice. Free will.
Writing this has shown me that I have a lot to say on this subject, but I won’t try to fit it all into one post. Don’t be surprised to find more posts on this subject.
Have a Creative Day!
P.S. Can you tell me who the quote at the top of this post is from? I will randomly pick one person who gets it right and send them a $10 gift card to Barnes and Noble bookstores. Just leave your answer in the comments section before midnight on Halloween. Good Luck!